FOM Notes

Let’s Go Out
Part 3 of 6 in the series “Getting Out Of The Doghouse”

May 3, 2009                      Pastor Scott Oldenburgh

 

 

All healthy marriages are built on the foundation of a growing (friendship)

 

“A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.”

Proverbs 17:17

 

“Wounds from a friend can be trusted, but an enemy multiplies kisses.”

Proverbs 27:6

 

“Do not forsake your friend and the friends of your father, and do not go to your brother’s house when disaster strikes you – better a neighbor nearby than a brother far away.”

Proverbs 27:10

 

“And the scripture was fulfilled that says, ‘Abraham believed God, and it was credited to him as righteousness,’ and he was called God’s friend.  You see that a person is justified by what he does and not by faith alone.”

James 2:23-24

 

“Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends.”

John 15:13

 

BUYING INTO THE FRIENDSHIP PRINCIPLE

 

 

I won’t (commit) where I’m not (connected)

 

OR

 

I (fully) commit where I am (fully) connected

 

 

TOOLS FOR BUILDING A SOLID FRIENDSHIP

 

P  Staying (connected)

* We find the time to keep up with each other *

 

P  Good (communication)

*We have good conversation *

 

P  Developing (mutual) interests

* We truly enjoy spending time together *

 

P  (Sacrificing) for the other person

* We are both willing to give what it takes *

 

P  Consistency of (character)

* We know what to expect from each other *

 

P  Adds to personal (growth)

* We bring out the best in each other *

 

 

SUGGESTIONS FOR DEVELOPING THE MARRIAGE FRIENDSHIP

 

 

n  (Date) nights

n  Vacations and weekend (getaways)

 

n  Develop a (mutual) hobby/activity

 

n       Try a new (communication) piece