FOM Notes

Stop Meeting Each Other’s Needs

Part 4 of 6 in the series “How To Get A Divorce”

April 20, 2008                                                    Pastor Scott Oldenburgh

 

“Nobody should seek his own good, but the good of others.”

I Corinthians 10:24

 

Meeting one another’s needs in marriage starts with the right (heart)

 

 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.”

Genesis 2:24

 

If two are going to become one, we have some (learning) to do

 

 

THE TWO THINGS I NEED TO LEARN TO BE A BETTER SPOUSE

 

1.  Learning to speak the right (language)

 

THE 5 LOVE LANGUAGES

 

1.  (Words) of affirmation

2.  Acts of (service)

3.  Quality (time)

 4.  Receiving (gifts)

 5.  (Physical) touch

 

 

Do I know my spouse’s love language?

Do I know what my love language is?

 

 

2.  Learning to (maximize) my efforts

 

The Survey Says:

 

Women’s Greatest Needs

Men’s Greatest Needs

1.  Affection

1.  Sexual Fulfillment

2.  Conversation

2.  Recreational Companionship

3.  Honesty/Openness

3.  Attraction

4.  Financial Security

4.  Domestic Support

5.  Family Commitment

5.  Admiration/Respect

                  

WHAT ARE MY SPOUSE’S TWO GREATEST NEEDS?

WHAT ARE MY TWO GREATEST NEEDS?