Follow-Up Study Guide To:

Stop Spending Time Together

Part 3 of 6 in the series “How To Get A Divorce”

April 13, 2008 Pastor Scott Oldenburgh

Read Matthew 25:14-30

Ø What does the word entrusted mean?

Ø What did the master entrust to the servants?

Ø What were his expectations?

Ø What did the servants do with their investments?

Ø How did the master respond?

Ø How does this relate to the area of our time and resources?

Ø What amount of time has every one been given to invest on a daily basis?

Ø What does the investment of our time say about our priorities?

Think back to the time that you and your spouse have spent together over the past month

Ø How many alone times have you been able to have (not including sex)?

Ø How much time do you spend together on a daily basis?

Ø Out of this daily time, how much time is actually focused on the two of you and not children or activities?

Ø When is the last time you got away or sent your kids away to give some focused time to your marriage?

Ø What is the difference between quality time and quantity time?

Ø Which do you have more of in your marriage? Why?

Read Galatians 6:7

Ø What does the principle of reaping and sowing have to do with the way you spend your time?

Ø When you spend quality and quantity time together, what are some of the results you see in your marriage?

Ø When you have not spent much time together, what are some of the results?

Ø What does spending time together communicate to your spouse?

Ø What does it communicate to your children about your marriage?

Ø Do you and your spouse have a time strategy in place?

Ø If so, is it working right now?

Ø If you have no strategy, why not?

Sit down with your spouse and take a look at your overall schedule in regard to spending time together. Figure out how to plan for time together.

Ø Start off by putting a date night on the calendar

Ø Decide who will go first in planning this night

Ø Next, look ahead and schedule a time away or send away time to have some extended time together

Ø Who is going to plan it?

Ø How long can you spend?

Ø Who is going to watch the kids?

Commit to sit down after a few of these date nights and extended times away and reevaluate how this worked for your marriage. Build, adjust, and plan accordingly.