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Notes
Stop Communicating With Each Other
Part 2 of 6 in the series “How To Get A Divorce”
April 6,
2008 Pastor
GOAL OF A HEALTHY MARRIAGE: TWO BECOME ONE FLESH
“Then the Lord God made a
woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the
man. The man said, ‘This is now bone of
my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken
out of man. For this reason a man will
leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one
flesh.’ The man and his wife were both
naked, and they felt no shame.”
Genesis 2:22-25
WHAT DOES THAT MEAN?
Complete emotional, spiritual,
mental, and physical bonding to one another
THE MOST OBVIOUS OBSTACLE TO TWO
BECOMING ONE FLESH
(Communicating) with the other
person
WHY PEOPLE CHOOSE NOT TO COMMUNICATE
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They’re too (lazy)
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They’re not interested or (invested)
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They’re too (busy)
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They fail to see it as a (priority)
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They think it’s too (risky)
THE RESULTS OF FAILED COMMUNICATION
Failure to
communicate means . . .
I
I have (no right to complain) about what the other person does
not know
REALITY: I may never have (my)
needs met
I
I have no idea how to (be the best spouse) I can be
REALITY: I’m just winging it with no
(game plan)
I
We have no idea how we are (actually doing) in our marriage
REALITY: We are riding the emotional
(rollercoaster)
PRACTICAL STEPS TO REBUILDING
COMMUNICATION
No Strategy = No Change
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Commit to (daily) debriefing
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Commit to (regular) checkups
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Commit to (scheduled) family meetings
“The Lord God said, ‘It is
not good for the man to be alone. I will
make a helper suitable for him.’ ”
Genesis 2:18