FOM Notes

OUR MARRIAGE WILL GET BETTER IN TIME

Part 6 of 6 in the series “Marriage Myths”

May 7, 2006 Guest Speaker Linda Carter

A myth is a half-truth or (false) belief about a (particular) subject

MYTH #16

(Time) will make our marriage better because (time) heals all wounds

TRUTH

(Time) itself does not heal, but it is (what is done) within the time that brings about (change)

“Be careful how you walk, not as unwise men, but as wise, making the most of your time . . . ”

Ephesians 5:15-16

PRACTICAL

(Today) comes only (once) . . . it is (my) day of (opportunity)

TIME IS THE (DURATION) OF ONE’S LIFE

HOURS AND DAYS WHICH A PERSON HAS AT HIS DISPOSAL AS A (RESOURCE)

TWO WAYS YOU CHOOSE TO RESPOND TO THE RESOURCE OF TIME:

Ä (Pass) time: delay or (postpone) moving toward a goal - usually unproductive

Ä (Make) time: (accomplish) as much as we can in a given amount of time

QUESTION FOR THOUGHT

With regard to your marriage or your life – are you simply passing time (hoping time will heal your hurts or your marriage)? Or are you making time (doing something to make it happen)?

MYTH #17

A successful marriage or life is one that has (no) problems

TRUTH

A successful marriage or life is one that deals (honestly) and (responsibly) with its problems

“Don’t be deceived; God is not mocked. Whatever a man sows, this he will also reap.”

Galatians 6:7

PRACTICAL

If I (sow) nothing, I will (reap) nothing

The choices we make are writing the next chapters of our life

WHAT WILL I NEED TO DO WITH MY TIME TO HEAL?

r (Admit) there is a problem

r The first relationship I have to mend is (my relationship) with (Christ)

r Realize I can only change (myself)

r Look at my (heart)

“Not by way of eye service, as men-pleasers, but as slaves of Christ, doing the will of God from the heart.”

Ephesians 6:6

r Ask and then (listen)

r Change your (thinking). You are on the (same) team!!

r (Seek) resources and tools of (solution)

r Take (action) - We (invest) our time in what we (value)!!!!!

“Give your entire attention to what God is doing right now.”

Matthew 6:34