FOM Notes

All He Wants Is My Body

Part 4 of 6 in the series “Marriage Myths”

April 23, 2006                                                    Pastor Scott Oldenburgh

 

MYTH #10

 

A man’s #1 priority in life is the (sexual encounter)

 

TRUTH

 

(God) and (sex) were not meant to compete for man’s top priority

 

COMMITMENT

 

I will seek to build a (relationship) with God and not allow the (foolishness) of the world to control my heart

 

“For since the creation of the world God’s invisible qualities – his eternal power and divine nature – have been clearly seen, being understood from what has been made, so that men are without excuse.  For although they knew God, they neither glorified him as God nor gave thanks to him, but their thinking became futile and their foolish hearts were darkened.”

Romans 1:20-21

 

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MYTH #11

 

If we had (sex) more often, our marriage would be fine

 

TRUTH

 

(Physical) encounters cannot heal (emotional), (mental) or (spiritual) wounds

 

COMMITMENT

 

I will not let sex be my (escape) in life

 

 

“They exchanged the truth of God for a lie, and worshiped and served created things rather than the Creator – who is forever praised.  Amen.”

Romans 1:25

 

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MYTH #12

 

If my husband didn’t (think) about sex so much, our marriage would be fine

 

TRUTH

 

God created man with the potential of having a strong (sex drive)

 

COMMITMENT

 

My prayer for my husband is that he finds his (value) and (fulfillment) in the image of God

           

“Although they claimed to be wise, they became fools and exchanged the glory of the immortal God for images made to look like mortal man and birds and animals and reptiles.  Therefore God gave them over in the sinful desires of their hearts to sexual impurity . . .”

Romans 1:22-23a

 

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TRUTHS ABOUT A MAN’S WORLD

 

Ä   There is an ongoing battle between being created as a (sexual being) and maintaining personal(integrity)
(Most men would welcome accountability and support if handled the right way)

 

Ä   The world uses sex to (sell), (manipulate), and command (attention)
(
Most men are visual in nature)

 

Ä   A healthy marriage is a (sanctuary) for the man and the woman
(A healthy sex life leads to a healthier, secure husband)

 

Ä   An (understanding) wife can be a great (asset) in helping a man feel confident, complete, and spiritually strong
(Do you know my needs? Do you take them seriously?)

 

 

WHAT ARE MY HUSBAND’S NEEDS?    

 

«    (Sexual) fulfillment

«    Recreational (companionship)

«    (Admiration)

«    (Home) support

«    (Attraction)

 

“Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeing; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.”

Proverbs 31:30

 

 

FEAR THE LORD?

 

§        Worships (God)

§        Spiritual (growth)

§        Uniquely (created)

§        Socially (connected)

§        Overflowing (heart)