FOM Notes

I’m Miserable And It’s Your Fault: Finding Life Fulfillment Even When Your Marriage Is Difficult

Part 1 of 6 in the series “Marriage Myths”

April 2, 2006 Pastor Scott Oldenburgh

MYTH #1

Most people in a marriage (crisis) believe that they would be better off with (someone else)

I TRUTH

There are no (perfect) marriages – and there are difficulties in (every) relationship

† COMMITMENT

I would rather have these struggles (with you) than (anyone else) in the world!

“When a man makes a vow to the Lord or takes an oath to obligate himself by a pledge, he must not break his word but must do everything he said.”

Numbers 30:2

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MYTH #2

It is my (spouse’s) job to fulfill me or meet my needs

I TRUTH

There is only one relationship that is (capable) of meeting all of your needs

“ ‘For I know the plans I have for you,’ declares the Lord, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.’ ”

Jeremiah 29:11

† COMMITMENT

I won’t ask my spouse to play (God) in my life

“Worship no god but me.”

Exodus 20:3 (GN)

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MYTH #3

Married couples are never (happy)

I TRUTH

(Passion) is the reward for couples who work to build a (healthy) marriage

† COMMITMENT

I will not settle for (‘getting by’) in my marriage

“Work hard and cheerfully at all you do, just as though you were working for the Lord . . . ”

Colossians 3:23 (LB)

WHAT IS THE GOAL OF A HEALTHY MARRIAGE?

Genesis 2

þ A (completion) of one another (18 & 20)

þ Leaving behind their (singleness) (24)

þ Fully (exposed) to one another (25)

þ No (shame) (25)

WHERE DO WE BEGIN?

C (ommitment)

C (ommunication)

C (ompanionship)

C (onnection)